Wendy Wagoner

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💗 Heart Centered Vision Board Guru 🌱 Attuned Coach, 💫 Awakening to Presence Integrated Practitioner,🌻Breath Practitioner, 🌸 Workshop Leader, 💟 Emotional Trauma Rehab, 💗 Healer and Body Worker

Great life changing exercise to try~

What is 1️⃣ emotion you can unmemorize ❌ today❓

An emotion that is creating stress 🆘 in your sysyem.

Add a new positive emotion in its place.✅

So if your word is irritation change it up to loving 🥰 curiosity. ✅

Then practice 🧬 this new emotion each time you start to feel irritation coming into your awareness. ✅

SAY out loud ‘CHANGE’ 🗣🧠🧬💓✅

Then insert 🔛 the new 🥰 feeling word. 💗☯️✅

“The inability to receive support from others is a trauma response.
Ok one more time, take this in -

The INability to RECEIVE SUPPORT from OTHERS is a TRAUMA RESPONSE!

Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. And you needed it to shield your heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you.

From the parent who was absent and abandoned you by choice or the parent who was never home from working three jobs to feed and house you.

From the lovers who offered sexual intimacy but never offered a safe haven that honored your heart.

From the friendships and family who ALWAYS took more than they ever gave.

From all the situations when someone told you “we’re in this together” or “I got you” then abandoned you, leaving you to pick up the pieces when shit got real, leaving you to handle your part and their part, too.
From all the lies and all the betrayals.

You learned along the way that you just couldn’t really trust people. Or that you could trust people, but only up to a certain point.

Extreme-independence IS. A. TRUST. ISSUE.

You learnt: if I don’t put myself in a situation where I rely on someone, I won’t have to be disappointed when they don’t show up for me, or when they drop the ball... because they will ALWAYS drop the ball EVENTUALLY right?

You validated your core belief that you can’t really trust people! That is how much you believe it! Your wiring is hooked up to this belief system.

You may even have been intentionally taught this protection strategy by generations of hurt ancestors who came before you.

Extreme-independence is a preemptive strike against heartbreak.
So, you don’t trust anyone.

And you don’t trust yourself, either, to choose people.

AND you don’t trust life itself maybe? Does Life have your back?

To trust is to hope, to trust is to be vulnerable.

“Never again,” you vow. Consciously or subconsciously.

But no matter how you dress it up and display it proudly to make it seem like this level of independence is what you always wanted to be, in truth it’s your wounded, scarred, broken heart behind a protective brick wall.

Impenetrable. Nothing gets in. No hurt gets in. But no love gets in either.
Fortresses and armor are for those in battle, or who believe the battle is coming.

It’s a trauma response.

It is an old wounding layer in your system that needs new wiring, a do over.

The good news is trauma that is acknowledged is trauma that can be healed.

You are worthy of having support.

You are worthy of having true partnership.

You are worthy of love.

You are worthy of having your heart held.

You are worthy to be adored.

You are worthy to be cherished.

You are worthy to have someone say, “You rest. I got this.”

And actually deliver on that promise.

You are worthy to receive.

You are worthy to receive.

You are worthy.

You don’t have to earn it.

You don’t have to prove it.

You don’t have to bargain for it.

You don’t have to beg for it.

You are worthy.

Worthy.

Simply because you exist.”

You can learn to trust, you deserve a life that brings you love and joy.

Start today by signing up for -

A 33-day online course at :

https://app.mastermind.com/masterminds/19467

It takes just 5 minutes a day

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Your layers of trauma need your attention, start today!

5 ways to make your day more mindful thus meaningful!

1.) Daily conscious breathing practice even if it is for 2 minutes!

2.) Slow down and tune into your body and senses where are you holding tension and be lovingly curious.

3.) Don't argue with reality - Love what is in each moment.

4.) Pay attention to people when you are around them. Are you on your cell phone or making true authentic connections?

5.) Think of one thing you're grateful for before starting your day and before falling asleep each day.

I am very excited to put up my Breathe to Freedom mastermind today.

This was a project I have been working on for over 6 months with my daughter in Mailchimp. Where people signing up will get a daily email for the 33 day challenge.

I was not sure how to set it up in the mastermind platform to direct them to my website to sign up. So I had to put a price.

Any suggestions?? Anyone else need people to go to their website to sign up for an existing course? Thanks!


https://app.mastermind.com/masterminds/19467

Author Seth Godin on having good ideas:

“People who have trouble coming up with good ideas, if they're telling you the truth, will tell you they don't have very many bad ideas. But people who have plenty of good ideas, if they're telling the truth, will say they have even more bad ideas. So the goal isn't to get good ideas; the goal is to get bad ideas. Because once you get enough bad ideas, then some good ones have to show up.”

Anyone read the 📘 book - Story Theatre Method - by Doug Stevenson ?

I just opened it and read - "Speakers that bore us to 😴😪 tears talk to our 🧠left-brains.

They think their job is to organize the material and present it in a structured way.

WRONG 🔴 🔕

A speakers job is to deliver🔛information in a way that motives people to 👂🏼listen, remember and act.

Boring speakers talk from their 🧠left brain to your 🧠left brain. What they don't understand is that your 🧠left brain doesn't make decisions, it simply collects data and feeds it to the right side of your 🧠brain which is where you make up your mind."

How many of you are even aware that we have different functions going on in different parts of our 🧠brains? That our left 🧠brain is our cognitive and logical side and our 🧠right brain is emotional and non-linear⁉️

🔛Focusing our attention to connecting to our clients right 🧠brain is 🔐key!

This is where they will make up their minds in 👁‍🗨seconds if they can trust and belief you!

Saw this today and I am just sharing! This is where I struggle the most! If you do too, I thought this would be helpful!!! Happy Tuesday everyone!

"The trick to writing well is to...

- take long sentences and make them short

- take confusing ideas and make them clear

- take unrelated concepts and make them related

...without losing the main idea in the process."

UPW Drawings by Caryn Ginsberg on Tony Robbins Teaching! It is so well done!

I am very proud of myself for completing Dean's Better Life 30 day challenge!

If you have struggle keeping a promise to yourself you might want to give this a go!

Great daily challenges and Dean Graziosi is a GREAT cheerleader to help keep you accountable!

Time goes by so fast, this 30 days flew by! Such a GREAT reminder - WHAT THE BLEEP ARE WE WAITING FOR??

This 30 days adds up to a year and then 5 years and before you know it another 10 years has gone by and your still waiting for what!!!?????

What can you do TODAY, right this MINUTE that will bring you to being fully conscious of this moment and connecting? How can you share heart conscious connection right now????

I am sharing my heart with you, feel it, I am connecting remotely if you need a heart hug. I might not know you personally but my heart knows your heart.

Sending LOVE and LIGHT to ALL!!!!

https://thebetterlife.com/i-xzblcg

If you watch the process of PERCEPTION in yourself, you find that every experience, act and sensation that comes to your awareness is first filtered through the background of your own conditioning.